Sweet Rose: Dating Thoughts: "for the first time in their lives, are actively seeking to date. In the past, they have just happened to come across people who they fell into relationships with. And now, they are in situations where they have to really put effort and thought into meeting someone with the goal of a relationship.
I've had the opposite experience. I've usually been in the situation where I was actively seeking partners to date. It's a much more intensive, draining and frustrating process"
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Monday, July 28, 2008
Before I Became Frum
Before I Became Frum: "Now that I'm frum, shomer negia, is something I have to adhere to. Before I became frum, if you said Shomer Negia, I might have asked 'is that the holiday like a week before before Yom Kippor, or is that the holiday sometime around June when we get the Torah?'"
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100 Orthodox Jews, with an intermarriage rate of 3% and an average 6.4 children per family increased their numbers to 2,588 Jews after 4 generations.
100 Modern Orthodox Jews, with an intermarriage rate of 3% and an average of 3.23 children per family also increased their numbers to 346 Jews.
Non-Orthodox and unaffiliated branches of Judaism did not fare so well in the continuity equation.
100 Conservative Jews decreased in number after 4 generations to 24 Jews (intermarriage rate: 37%, Average children per family: 1.82).
Jews affiliated with the Reform Movement also saw a significant decrease in number after 4 generations, going from 100 Jews to 13
(intermarriage rate: 53%, Average children per family: 1.72).
Unaffiliated Jews with an intermarriage rate of 72% and 1.62 children per family, were left with only 5 Jews after 4 generations."
100 Orthodox Jews, with an intermarriage rate of 3% and an average 6.4 children per family increased their numbers to 2,588 Jews after 4 generations.
100 Modern Orthodox Jews, with an intermarriage rate of 3% and an average of 3.23 children per family also increased their numbers to 346 Jews.
Non-Orthodox and unaffiliated branches of Judaism did not fare so well in the continuity equation.
100 Conservative Jews decreased in number after 4 generations to 24 Jews (intermarriage rate: 37%, Average children per family: 1.82).
Jews affiliated with the Reform Movement also saw a significant decrease in number after 4 generations, going from 100 Jews to 13
(intermarriage rate: 53%, Average children per family: 1.72).
Unaffiliated Jews with an intermarriage rate of 72% and 1.62 children per family, were left with only 5 Jews after 4 generations."
How to Get Married After 35
How to Get Married After 35: "she ran into an old friend who had become observant. Her friend seemed happier than she'd ever seen her. I want some of that, Helena thought. So she began attending Torah study classes. At one of Aish HaTorah's High Holiday learning services she met Charlie, the man who would later become her husband.
She gave Charlie her 'I'm only dating for the purpose of marriage' speech on the second date.
Having been influenced by her classes and being very goal-oriented, she gave Charlie her 'I'm only dating for the purpose of marriage' speech on the second date. He stuck around, and 12 months later they were married.
Not content to bask in her personal happiness, Helena wanted to help others. She believed strongly in her method of dating and felt such regret over the time she had wasted.
She began to formulate some principles and strategies. Helena believes that every man or woman who is single and seriously wants to get married should have a post-it on their refrigerator, 'What one thing am I going to do today in service of my personal life?'
'We should bring the same passion, tenacity and principles to finding a marriage partner that we bring to business,' she proposes.
Action is far superior to complaining. We need to remain upbeat and, as Helena herself did, 'never lose faith that there is someone out there'."
Courtesy of: Aish.com
A book review by an Aish.com staff writer about by Helena Rosenberg who wrote:
"How to Get Married After 35: A User's Guide to Getting to the Altar" (Harper Collins Publishers)
She gave Charlie her 'I'm only dating for the purpose of marriage' speech on the second date.
Having been influenced by her classes and being very goal-oriented, she gave Charlie her 'I'm only dating for the purpose of marriage' speech on the second date. He stuck around, and 12 months later they were married.
Not content to bask in her personal happiness, Helena wanted to help others. She believed strongly in her method of dating and felt such regret over the time she had wasted.
She began to formulate some principles and strategies. Helena believes that every man or woman who is single and seriously wants to get married should have a post-it on their refrigerator, 'What one thing am I going to do today in service of my personal life?'
'We should bring the same passion, tenacity and principles to finding a marriage partner that we bring to business,' she proposes.
Action is far superior to complaining. We need to remain upbeat and, as Helena herself did, 'never lose faith that there is someone out there'."
Courtesy of: Aish.com
A book review by an Aish.com staff writer about by Helena Rosenberg who wrote:
"How to Get Married After 35: A User's Guide to Getting to the Altar" (Harper Collins Publishers)
Nice Jewish Girl
Nice Jewish Girl: "There are many things in life that do not always turn out the way we dreamed but we must deal with the circumstances as best we can when they arise. I never asked to be still single and lonely when I am 35. I have kept the halachos of S.N. as long as I possibly could and forever that will be something to be proud of, especially since it seems that there are very very few others my age who can say the same. It is true that in all the months of keeping this blog I have only received one or maybe two comments or emails as far as I remember from someone who was at least 35 and had never broken the laws of S.N. Everyone else is either married, or still single and S.N. but younger than I am. I have much to be proud of, but breaking halacha is never one of them. I am happy for myself that at last I have experienced something so basic to the human condition but pride would not be the right adjective for how I feel. Relieved and excited and hopeful for the future. But not proud.
I am aghast however at the vitriol from those few people who cannot seem to feel both compassion for me and faith in halacha at the same time. They seem to be experiencing some cognitive dissonance over the fact that on the one hand we are obligated to keep mitzvos and that as Orthodox people we do not feel there are any excuses for ever breaking a halacha, ever, except in cases of sickness or other danger to life . . . and yet all over the place are Orthodox people who break halachos all the time because keeping all the halachos all the time is very very challenging. Much too challenging for most people. Are there not any halachos that they, too, break in secret? Do not they, too, have something for which to repent this week? And is not our job to continue to do our best, though only angels are perfect in their service of Hashem?"
Courtesy of: http://shomernegiah.blogspot.com/
I am aghast however at the vitriol from those few people who cannot seem to feel both compassion for me and faith in halacha at the same time. They seem to be experiencing some cognitive dissonance over the fact that on the one hand we are obligated to keep mitzvos and that as Orthodox people we do not feel there are any excuses for ever breaking a halacha, ever, except in cases of sickness or other danger to life . . . and yet all over the place are Orthodox people who break halachos all the time because keeping all the halachos all the time is very very challenging. Much too challenging for most people. Are there not any halachos that they, too, break in secret? Do not they, too, have something for which to repent this week? And is not our job to continue to do our best, though only angels are perfect in their service of Hashem?"
Courtesy of: http://shomernegiah.blogspot.com/
Secular Ideals Meet Frum Dating
Secular Ideals Meet Frum Dating: "I think each person should sit down and carefully, honestly, and critically evaluate the requirements he or she has for a prospective shidduch. Which characteristics are really sacrosanct and which would be nice but optional. This should preferably be done with the help of a dating mentor and/or competent halachic authority who knows the person very well. Generally, shidduch requirements should be the three or four essential values that a person needs to achieve shalom bayis and proper child rearing with a spouse."
Secular Ideals Meet Frum Dating
Secular Ideals Meet Frum Dating: "Winning is everything: When two people date, it is often turned into a game of who will cave in and answer with a “yes” or “no” first. Shadchanim have to chase after both parties to find out what happened. Even when one wants to say yes, he or she will do so only after knowing if the other party said yes as well. It’s important to show interest in the person you are dating, even if it makes you vulnerable"
Made In Heaven - Helping single frum Jewish Men and Women find their zivugim.
Made In Heaven - Helping single frum Jewish Men and Women find their zivugim.: "Mrs. Beverly Gross of Monsey, New York, created L’chaim International in direct response to what is now called ‘the Shidduch crisis. Basically, L’chaim advocates a group of women (ideally no more than 6) getting together at least once a month to present profiles of singles, without names, so there is no Loshon Horah involved. If someone listening thinks that they know someone for the person mentioned, she will approach the speaker, after the meeting and discuss it further. (By the way, men can have Shidduch meetings too!) When done correctly, it is a very beautiful and tznius way of going about making Shidduchim."
TBS: Upcoming Events
TBS: Upcoming Events
Temple Beth Shalom of Cambridge
"5:30 - 7:00 pm Tu B'Av Singles Mixer, Session A (35+)
Our singles mixers are now semi-annual by popular demand, but Tu B'Av is the original. Tu B'Av, the fifteenth (or full moon) of the month of Av, is traditionally considered a matchmaking occasion and/or an auspicious time for meeting one's beloved. Help us make this tradition a reality! We'll provide wine and cheese, other snacks and beverages, some informal icebreaking activities, and a relaxed environment for mingling.
Doors at 5:15pm to get registered for Session A. Cost: $15 ($12 full-time students). $5 discount with your online registration by 11:59pm on Saturday, August 16, 2008. FREE to dues-paid TBS members!"
Courtesy of: Temple Beth Shalom of Cambridge http://www.tremontstreetshul.org/upcoming_events.html
Temple Beth Shalom of Cambridge
"5:30 - 7:00 pm Tu B'Av Singles Mixer, Session A (35+)
Our singles mixers are now semi-annual by popular demand, but Tu B'Av is the original. Tu B'Av, the fifteenth (or full moon) of the month of Av, is traditionally considered a matchmaking occasion and/or an auspicious time for meeting one's beloved. Help us make this tradition a reality! We'll provide wine and cheese, other snacks and beverages, some informal icebreaking activities, and a relaxed environment for mingling.
Doors at 5:15pm to get registered for Session A. Cost: $15 ($12 full-time students). $5 discount with your online registration by 11:59pm on Saturday, August 16, 2008. FREE to dues-paid TBS members!"
Courtesy of: Temple Beth Shalom of Cambridge http://www.tremontstreetshul.org/upcoming_events.html
For frum singles 23-39 in Connecticut.
Friday, August 15th - Sunday, August 17th 2008
PLACE: The Sheraton Stamford Hotel, Stamford ConnecticutAGES: 23-39
HASHKAFA: Modern Orthodox Machmir and Yeshivish/Black HatPROGRAM : Fun, Fabulous Food & Friendly Faces! Live music, HelpfulShadchanim, & Inspiritational Shuirim! Interactive Programs Where YouMeet Hundreds of Singles!SIGN UP NOW!! 150 SPOTS HAVE SOLD OUT WITHIN 72 HOURS OF OPEN REGISTRATION! TO REGISTER PLEASE GO TO: Saw You At Sinai
Please note SawYouAtSinai and YUConnects are partners for this event. For more information, call (212) 600-0977
Courtesy of:
Kew Gardens Hills FRUM JEWISH SINGLES
Post Research:
The Writers Cafe.org
PLACE: The Sheraton Stamford Hotel, Stamford ConnecticutAGES: 23-39
HASHKAFA: Modern Orthodox Machmir and Yeshivish/Black HatPROGRAM : Fun, Fabulous Food & Friendly Faces! Live music, HelpfulShadchanim, & Inspiritational Shuirim! Interactive Programs Where YouMeet Hundreds of Singles!SIGN UP NOW!! 150 SPOTS HAVE SOLD OUT WITHIN 72 HOURS OF OPEN REGISTRATION! TO REGISTER PLEASE GO TO: Saw You At Sinai
Please note SawYouAtSinai and YUConnects are partners for this event. For more information, call (212) 600-0977
Courtesy of:
Kew Gardens Hills FRUM JEWISH SINGLES
Post Research:
The Writers Cafe.org
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Beyond BT/SerandEz Shabbaton | Beyond BT - For Baalei Teshuva and Other Growth Oriented Jews
Beyond BT/SerandEz Shabbaton Beyond BT - For Baalei Teshuva and Other Growth Oriented Jews: "Beyond BT/SerandEz Shabbaton
July 12th, 2008 - Administrator
You are cordially invited to the Beyond BT/SerandEz Shabbaton in Kew Gardens Hills on Shabbos Nachamu, August 15-16, 2008. Please join us for a full Shabbos program including relaxed, catered meals and personal thoughts on the themes of Integration, Inspiration and Individuality. There will also be a melave malka with the BBT Jam Band (in its newest incarnation).
Pricing to follow. We will find accommodations for those residing outside of Kew Gardens Hills on a first request - first serve basis. Please e-mail us at beyondbt@gmail.com with questions, comments, or to rsvp. We look forward to seeing you all there"
Courtesy of Beyond BT: http://www.beyondbt.com/?p=1028
July 12th, 2008 - Administrator
You are cordially invited to the Beyond BT/SerandEz Shabbaton in Kew Gardens Hills on Shabbos Nachamu, August 15-16, 2008. Please join us for a full Shabbos program including relaxed, catered meals and personal thoughts on the themes of Integration, Inspiration and Individuality. There will also be a melave malka with the BBT Jam Band (in its newest incarnation).
Pricing to follow. We will find accommodations for those residing outside of Kew Gardens Hills on a first request - first serve basis. Please e-mail us at beyondbt@gmail.com with questions, comments, or to rsvp. We look forward to seeing you all there"
Courtesy of Beyond BT: http://www.beyondbt.com/?p=1028
Events - Frumster.com - Jewish Dating for Marriage
Events - Frumster.com - Jewish Dating for Marriage:
"'FLAKEY' JAKE PRESENTS SHABBOS NACHAMU 2008 AT THE HUDSON VALLEY RESORT!
Reservation is required
Location:The Hudson Valley Resort, 400 Granite Road, Kerhonkson, NY 12446
Cost:As low as $189
Phone:718-436-0682 from 12:30 PM till 11:00 PM
Details:'FLAKEY' JAKE PRESENTS SHABBOS NACHAMU 2008
JOIN OVER 600 SINGLES (AGES 21 AND UP) AT
THE HUDSON VALLEY RESORT
400 Granite Road
Kerhonkson, NY 12446
Friday August 15th - Sunday August 17th, 2008
As low as $189 till 8/11/08.
$30 RT Buses from Brooklyn, Midtown and the Upper West Side
Under Strict Supervision of Rabbi Zushe Blech
Benefit National Jewish Education Fund
Catering by Mickey Montal of N-More Caterers
Featuring: Rabbi Aharon Ziegler, Rosh Kollel Agudas Achim
Gabriella Strauss, Dynamic Torah Lecturer
Assemblyman Dov Hikind
and Shani Hikind, Exec. Dir. Ateret Kohanim,
Jerusalem Reclamation Project
PROGRAM INCLUDES: WELCOME HOSPITALITY,
ONE - ON - ONE INTROS, ROUND ROBIN SEATING, FRI. NITE ONEG
ICEBREAKER, WINE TASTING, EXCITING GUEST SPEAKERS, KUMZITS, SPECTACULAR SAT. NITE SHOW, MIDNIGHT BUFFET, FAREWELL BAR-B-CUE
FOR FURTHER INFORMATION, CALL 'FLAKEY' JAKE AT:
718-436-0682 FROM 12:30 pm till 11:00 pm"
Courtesy of: http://www.frumster.com/events.php
No login required to visit the above link which lists singles events.
"'FLAKEY' JAKE PRESENTS SHABBOS NACHAMU 2008 AT THE HUDSON VALLEY RESORT!
Reservation is required
Location:The Hudson Valley Resort, 400 Granite Road, Kerhonkson, NY 12446
Cost:As low as $189
Phone:718-436-0682 from 12:30 PM till 11:00 PM
Details:'FLAKEY' JAKE PRESENTS SHABBOS NACHAMU 2008
JOIN OVER 600 SINGLES (AGES 21 AND UP) AT
THE HUDSON VALLEY RESORT
400 Granite Road
Kerhonkson, NY 12446
Friday August 15th - Sunday August 17th, 2008
As low as $189 till 8/11/08.
$30 RT Buses from Brooklyn, Midtown and the Upper West Side
Under Strict Supervision of Rabbi Zushe Blech
Benefit National Jewish Education Fund
Catering by Mickey Montal of N-More Caterers
Featuring: Rabbi Aharon Ziegler, Rosh Kollel Agudas Achim
Gabriella Strauss, Dynamic Torah Lecturer
Assemblyman Dov Hikind
and Shani Hikind, Exec. Dir. Ateret Kohanim,
Jerusalem Reclamation Project
PROGRAM INCLUDES: WELCOME HOSPITALITY,
ONE - ON - ONE INTROS, ROUND ROBIN SEATING, FRI. NITE ONEG
ICEBREAKER, WINE TASTING, EXCITING GUEST SPEAKERS, KUMZITS, SPECTACULAR SAT. NITE SHOW, MIDNIGHT BUFFET, FAREWELL BAR-B-CUE
FOR FURTHER INFORMATION, CALL 'FLAKEY' JAKE AT:
718-436-0682 FROM 12:30 pm till 11:00 pm"
Courtesy of: http://www.frumster.com/events.php
No login required to visit the above link which lists singles events.
Changes In Pasaic Dating.blogspot.com
The blog is being opened up. The blog will be available to search engines.
This blog developed as a response to a perceived need. To date no one other then myself has opted to take the time to share their views on this blog. That's okay with me. Me posting and creating all the content for yet another google blog was not my original intention. I also believe that it was not Shlomo's original idea as expressed at our recent meeting,
1) I conclude to open the block up to search engines, and to allow anyone who surfs in via the Internet to read our blog.
2) I conclude to allow all who choose to to post their comments here. Comments may have various ID's (other then google as previously required) including something called open ID which I am just learning about.
3) I believe there is a mechanism for people who have opted in to be contributors on this blog to remove themselves from this list if they choose to do say. They are welcome to remain on in if they like. If they want to be removed from the contributor list they may send an email to me, and I will gladly comply in a timely manner.
4) The blogs goal still maintain true to helping Passaic frum jews to get married. If this blog also helps other frum jews to get married that is also good. My personal belief is that by helping other frum jews to get married, you are also helping yourself to get married. Unless of course if you are already married, in which case at the very least you are certainly doing a positive deed by helping other frum jews to get married.
Yes, I have heard about the Shidduch Crisis, and part of the goal of this blog is me doing my part.
As always your opinion, comments and suggestions are welcome either publicly or privately. If you have critical comments however, I would prefer them privately:
stevesanders38@yahoo.com
PS: A feature of this blog is that each new post can be sent to up to ten individual. Those who signed up to be contributors (which was initially the only to access this blog at its inception have now been set to receive an e-mail with each new post. All of our contributors will now be receiving such e-mails. At their private request I will also remove anyone from the e-mail list who tells me via e-mail that they want to be removed from the list. The e-mails are going out to the google e-mail addresses that were given during your sign up.
This blog developed as a response to a perceived need. To date no one other then myself has opted to take the time to share their views on this blog. That's okay with me. Me posting and creating all the content for yet another google blog was not my original intention. I also believe that it was not Shlomo's original idea as expressed at our recent meeting,
1) I conclude to open the block up to search engines, and to allow anyone who surfs in via the Internet to read our blog.
2) I conclude to allow all who choose to to post their comments here. Comments may have various ID's (other then google as previously required) including something called open ID which I am just learning about.
3) I believe there is a mechanism for people who have opted in to be contributors on this blog to remove themselves from this list if they choose to do say. They are welcome to remain on in if they like. If they want to be removed from the contributor list they may send an email to me, and I will gladly comply in a timely manner.
4) The blogs goal still maintain true to helping Passaic frum jews to get married. If this blog also helps other frum jews to get married that is also good. My personal belief is that by helping other frum jews to get married, you are also helping yourself to get married. Unless of course if you are already married, in which case at the very least you are certainly doing a positive deed by helping other frum jews to get married.
Yes, I have heard about the Shidduch Crisis, and part of the goal of this blog is me doing my part.
As always your opinion, comments and suggestions are welcome either publicly or privately. If you have critical comments however, I would prefer them privately:
stevesanders38@yahoo.com
PS: A feature of this blog is that each new post can be sent to up to ten individual. Those who signed up to be contributors (which was initially the only to access this blog at its inception have now been set to receive an e-mail with each new post. All of our contributors will now be receiving such e-mails. At their private request I will also remove anyone from the e-mail list who tells me via e-mail that they want to be removed from the list. The e-mails are going out to the google e-mail addresses that were given during your sign up.
ADVICE?: Shabbat Nachamu - Janglo | Israel's largest online community for English speakers
ADVICE?: Shabbat Nachamu - Janglo Israel's largest online community for English speakers: "Thursday, 24 July 2008, 11:50 PM
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Help! We would like to get away for 3 nights Thu-Sat of Shabbat Nachamu. We need something religious (or at least someplace with davening and not very visible non-shabbat activities going on), but not overwhelming to our parents. We also need something that has stuff for kids (ages 4 & 7).
Not overly expensive is important as well."
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Help! We would like to get away for 3 nights Thu-Sat of Shabbat Nachamu. We need something religious (or at least someplace with davening and not very visible non-shabbat activities going on), but not overwhelming to our parents. We also need something that has stuff for kids (ages 4 & 7).
Not overly expensive is important as well."
Courtesy of: Janglo Israel's largest online community
Shabbos Shidduch Project-Shabbos Nachamu
Shabbos Shidduch Project-Shabbos Nachamu: "We ask you to do the following:
1. Invite several single Jewish Males and Females to your Shabbos Table, on Shabbos Night and Shabbos Day. 3-4 people nothing more. So that they meet in a non-pressured environment.
2. Make sure that these singles have something in common. From a similar background.
3. Expose your guests to the beauty of shabbos.
4. Let Hashem do the rest."
Courtesy of:Shabbos Shidduch Project-Shabbos Nachamu August 15-16, 2008-Toronto Jewish Singles
1. Invite several single Jewish Males and Females to your Shabbos Table, on Shabbos Night and Shabbos Day. 3-4 people nothing more. So that they meet in a non-pressured environment.
2. Make sure that these singles have something in common. From a similar background.
3. Expose your guests to the beauty of shabbos.
4. Let Hashem do the rest."
Courtesy of:Shabbos Shidduch Project-Shabbos Nachamu August 15-16, 2008-Toronto Jewish Singles
Friday, July 25, 2008
JFlatbushOnline : Message: Shabbos Nachamu Event: Early Bird Rates end next week!
JFlatbushOnline : Message: Shabbos Nachamu Event: Early Bird Rates end next week!:
"THE PLACE TO BE
Shabbos Nachamu at the Nevele Grande Resort
August 15-17
Visiting Day is Sunday, August 17
For Singles and Families
Singles ages: 20-39 & 45-60 (40-44 welcome!)
*Guest Speakers include: Rabbi Cary A. Friedman, world renowned
author and lecturer
**Motzai Shabbos Concert featuring Michoel Pruzansky, Mendy Wald &
friends**
Glatt kosher under strict Rabbinical supervision.
Early Bird Pricing:
$199 per person /4 in room
$229 per person/ 3 in room
$249 per person/ 2 in room
$399 for private room
Prices go up on August 1st!
Transportation available: $30 round trip
For reservations email Starsingles1@aol. com
or call Julie @ 516-582-2190 or Tzvi @ 800-816-3630"
"THE PLACE TO BE
Shabbos Nachamu at the Nevele Grande Resort
August 15-17
Visiting Day is Sunday, August 17
For Singles and Families
Singles ages: 20-39 & 45-60 (40-44 welcome!)
*Guest Speakers include: Rabbi Cary A. Friedman, world renowned
author and lecturer
**Motzai Shabbos Concert featuring Michoel Pruzansky, Mendy Wald &
friends**
Glatt kosher under strict Rabbinical supervision.
Early Bird Pricing:
$199 per person /4 in room
$229 per person/ 3 in room
$249 per person/ 2 in room
$399 for private room
Prices go up on August 1st!
Transportation available: $30 round trip
For reservations email Starsingles1@aol. com
or call Julie @ 516-582-2190 or Tzvi @ 800-816-3630"
SawYouAtSinai And YU Host Shabbos Nachamu Weekend
SawYouAtSinai And YU Host Shabbos Nachamu Weekend:
"SawYouAtSinai and YUConnects has opened registration for its annual Shabbos Nachamu singles weekend.
The event, which is geared toward Modern Orthodox machmir and yeshivish/black hat singles ages 23-39, will take place at the Sheraton Stamford Hotel in Stamford Connecticut on August 15-17.
Matchmakers from YUConnects and SawYouAtSinai will be available at the weekend to talk with attendees and to facilitate matchmaking. Interactive programming will enable singles to meet each other."
"SawYouAtSinai and YUConnects has opened registration for its annual Shabbos Nachamu singles weekend.
The event, which is geared toward Modern Orthodox machmir and yeshivish/black hat singles ages 23-39, will take place at the Sheraton Stamford Hotel in Stamford Connecticut on August 15-17.
Matchmakers from YUConnects and SawYouAtSinai will be available at the weekend to talk with attendees and to facilitate matchmaking. Interactive programming will enable singles to meet each other."
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Shabbat Nachamu Weekend Sharon Ganz & Friends
Shabbat Nachamu Weekend Sharon Ganz & Friends
Join Singles From Across the United States & Canada for your Best Shabbat Nachamu Weekend August 15 & 16, 2008 At: Cong. Tifereth Israel In Passaic, New Jersey
(just 15 mins. from NYC) Near: Secaucus Outlets, Rock climbing, Go-Carting on Route 17 & more
For Singles 25-37 & Singles 38+ To include: 3 Shabbat meals, Oneg Shabbat, Shabbat Tour of Passaic, Singles Mixers, Group Discussions, Sat Eve Party & more... Early fee: $139 (til Aug. 7) Late Fee : $159 (after Aug 7) Call Sharon (718)575-3962 or (646) 529-8748 (posted 7/15)
Courtesy of Luach.com
Our humble group also traces it roots back to a luach.com posting on the same page:
Town Hall Meeting for Single Men-July 16th Passaic-Clifton single men are invited to a town hall meeting. Yad L'Simcha, Passaic-Clifton's shidduch committee, will provide an open, uncensored forum to discuss ideas, concerns, and suggestions regarding what it could do to help you find your bashert. We are particularly interested in programming ideas for the future. This event is only open to single men of Passaic/Clifton. WHAT: An open-forum town hall meeting sponsored by Yad L'Simcha WHEN: Wednesday, July 16th at 8:30 p.m. WHERE: Shunie and Ira Perlmuter's home...
Thank you http://www.luach.com/posts/Region/passaic
PS: I usually strive for pinpoint accuracy with my link posts, but forgot to cut and paste the complete url. My apologies.
Question? Who is planning on sticking around Passaic for Shabbat Nachamu? What are other people planning? Any great events happening perhaps in the cooler climates such as the Catskills? Please post all such events. Inquiring minds want to know.
PS: I am not really going to post all the names and phone numbers of our group right here. However, I really need to know how anyone here feels about opening up this blog to a much wider audience. At the moment this whole blog may not seem to warrant any further effort on my part. I have got other blogs to attend to, sites to surf, people to meet, miles to walk etc.
So please, post now, or...
Public comments encouraged, private criticisms accepted:
stevesanders38@yahoo.com
Join Singles From Across the United States & Canada for your Best Shabbat Nachamu Weekend August 15 & 16, 2008 At: Cong. Tifereth Israel In Passaic, New Jersey
(just 15 mins. from NYC) Near: Secaucus Outlets, Rock climbing, Go-Carting on Route 17 & more
For Singles 25-37 & Singles 38+ To include: 3 Shabbat meals, Oneg Shabbat, Shabbat Tour of Passaic, Singles Mixers, Group Discussions, Sat Eve Party & more... Early fee: $139 (til Aug. 7) Late Fee : $159 (after Aug 7) Call Sharon (718)575-3962 or (646) 529-8748 (posted 7/15)
Courtesy of Luach.com
Our humble group also traces it roots back to a luach.com posting on the same page:
Town Hall Meeting for Single Men-July 16th Passaic-Clifton single men are invited to a town hall meeting. Yad L'Simcha, Passaic-Clifton's shidduch committee, will provide an open, uncensored forum to discuss ideas, concerns, and suggestions regarding what it could do to help you find your bashert. We are particularly interested in programming ideas for the future. This event is only open to single men of Passaic/Clifton. WHAT: An open-forum town hall meeting sponsored by Yad L'Simcha WHEN: Wednesday, July 16th at 8:30 p.m. WHERE: Shunie and Ira Perlmuter's home...
Thank you http://www.luach.com/posts/Region/passaic
PS: I usually strive for pinpoint accuracy with my link posts, but forgot to cut and paste the complete url. My apologies.
Question? Who is planning on sticking around Passaic for Shabbat Nachamu? What are other people planning? Any great events happening perhaps in the cooler climates such as the Catskills? Please post all such events. Inquiring minds want to know.
PS: I am not really going to post all the names and phone numbers of our group right here. However, I really need to know how anyone here feels about opening up this blog to a much wider audience. At the moment this whole blog may not seem to warrant any further effort on my part. I have got other blogs to attend to, sites to surf, people to meet, miles to walk etc.
So please, post now, or...
Public comments encouraged, private criticisms accepted:
stevesanders38@yahoo.com
More info needed.
Courtesy of NYM@yahoo.com
Forwarded message ----------From: Amitai Levin <amilevin@...>Date: Thu, 17 Jul 2008 23:37:32 -0400Subject: [Tif-mail] Housing Needed-Singles Shabbaton-Shabbos NachamuTo: Tifereth Email List <Tif-mail@...>
On Shabbos Nachamu August 16th Tifereth will be hosting a Singles Shabbaton.
All meals will be eaten in shul but housing is needed for those singles that are coming from out of town.
If you can house singles for that Shabbos please email me and let me know how many people you can house. In addition if you are able to assist in coordinating the housing please let me know.Thank you Amitai
Thank you Hugh. however more information is needed. Anyone with the full information:
Who is it for, how much. How to register etc. Please post it here.
PS:
I propose that our next follow up "Town Hall Meeting" take place @ Barry M's house say around 8pm on this coming monday or tuesday? What do you say, anyone want to second the motion. Barry can we have say a small group of us, I'd anticipate between 5-9 or so people tops, at your place?
Forwarded message ----------From: Amitai Levin <amilevin@...>Date: Thu, 17 Jul 2008 23:37:32 -0400Subject: [Tif-mail] Housing Needed-Singles Shabbaton-Shabbos NachamuTo: Tifereth Email List <Tif-mail@...>
On Shabbos Nachamu August 16th Tifereth will be hosting a Singles Shabbaton.
All meals will be eaten in shul but housing is needed for those singles that are coming from out of town.
If you can house singles for that Shabbos please email me and let me know how many people you can house. In addition if you are able to assist in coordinating the housing please let me know.Thank you Amitai
Thank you Hugh. however more information is needed. Anyone with the full information:
Who is it for, how much. How to register etc. Please post it here.
PS:
I propose that our next follow up "Town Hall Meeting" take place @ Barry M's house say around 8pm on this coming monday or tuesday? What do you say, anyone want to second the motion. Barry can we have say a small group of us, I'd anticipate between 5-9 or so people tops, at your place?
Technical info., proposals, nominations and new services.
New services offered exclusively @ http://passaicdating.blogspot.com by invitation only.
The Rosenbaums are available for date coaching!
New posts do not get sent to all readers or authors automatically. Due to the nature of what we are doing I think people might have an anonymous e-mail identity, as well as one that maybe we know. For that reason I may re-send invitations even if you have already signed up as an author. We can have up to 100 authors on this blog.
If it is okay I thought I would post our e-mail addresses, with the phone number contacts as it was sent to me by Betzion.
However if I did that, I think I might just have it up for several days. However if we even get one public or private objection, this will not be done.
Proposal: Lets plan an informal meeting soon, perhaps even before the 9 days kicks in.
Proposal: A new section: Ask a Shyla? You can address your question to a "professional" to a Rabbi, or to all of us.
Proposal: There is a way to post an opinion poll and actually even count votes. We need about three times as many members here for such a thing to work.
Proposal: Anyone who can post, can propose, nominate, etc.
Nominations: Boruch M. who used to live in Passaic, I believe he is still "not yet married". The Pearlmutters, because they opened their home to us for our meeting, as well as having singles at their house for Shabbos meals. Denille who is also single and in Passaic.
Actions taken: An invitation was sent out to the proposed adoptive family. Shlomo was given moderator status.
Hatzlacha Rabba! Good Shabbos to all!
PS:Proposal: E-mail addresses for proposed "new members" actual Passaic singles can be sent to me for inclusion into this site without formal nomination procedures.
stevesanders38@yahoo.com
Proposal: Lack of objections becomes interpreted as positive permission within 24 hours or so.
Procedures on how to overthrow the creator of this blog will be forthcoming.
The Rosenbaums are available for date coaching!
New posts do not get sent to all readers or authors automatically. Due to the nature of what we are doing I think people might have an anonymous e-mail identity, as well as one that maybe we know. For that reason I may re-send invitations even if you have already signed up as an author. We can have up to 100 authors on this blog.
If it is okay I thought I would post our e-mail addresses, with the phone number contacts as it was sent to me by Betzion.
However if I did that, I think I might just have it up for several days. However if we even get one public or private objection, this will not be done.
Proposal: Lets plan an informal meeting soon, perhaps even before the 9 days kicks in.
Proposal: A new section: Ask a Shyla? You can address your question to a "professional" to a Rabbi, or to all of us.
Proposal: There is a way to post an opinion poll and actually even count votes. We need about three times as many members here for such a thing to work.
Proposal: Anyone who can post, can propose, nominate, etc.
Nominations: Boruch M. who used to live in Passaic, I believe he is still "not yet married". The Pearlmutters, because they opened their home to us for our meeting, as well as having singles at their house for Shabbos meals. Denille who is also single and in Passaic.
Actions taken: An invitation was sent out to the proposed adoptive family. Shlomo was given moderator status.
Hatzlacha Rabba! Good Shabbos to all!
PS:Proposal: E-mail addresses for proposed "new members" actual Passaic singles can be sent to me for inclusion into this site without formal nomination procedures.
stevesanders38@yahoo.com
Proposal: Lack of objections becomes interpreted as positive permission within 24 hours or so.
Procedures on how to overthrow the creator of this blog will be forthcoming.
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Welcome to our Blog!
What this blog is, can be, and what we can do here.
1) Propose ideas:
At this point any idea (from anyone) is a good idea.
Whats the scoop on the upcoming Shabbaton @ the Tiff?
Nominate people:
1) Since this posting board was initially Shlomo's idea, I'd entertain a motion to nominate Shlomo to become a moderator here. Maybe together we can help acheive the idea he had in mind when it was suggested.
2) Since we might need to adopt a family for purposes of shidduch readings, idea, plans suggestions etc... I'd entertain a motion to nominate the Rosenbaum's (Aaron & Yehudis) as our founding family mainly because they did put together an actual singles event, in the very recent past. They have also told me that even if we only had seven guys (oddly enough) that was my projected estimate, they would put on a shidduchim workshop.
What this blog is not:
1) Its not open to search engines.
2) I have not seen any Ads here yet.
3) You have to be invited to post or even read this blog.
The blog is not here to compete with what other shidduchim groups are doing. At the meeting there was a suggetion that we can also become proactive and help ourselves.
More of what we can do:
Suggest new members:
All we need is some agreement amongst ourselves that so and so should become a member, get his e-mal address, send him an invite, he sets up a free google email account and he's in. Simple!
What this Blog Can Be:
An opportunity for us to talk amongst ourselves:
Public Responses encouraged:
Private responses can also be sent to stevesanders38@yahoo.com
1) Propose ideas:
At this point any idea (from anyone) is a good idea.
Whats the scoop on the upcoming Shabbaton @ the Tiff?
Nominate people:
1) Since this posting board was initially Shlomo's idea, I'd entertain a motion to nominate Shlomo to become a moderator here. Maybe together we can help acheive the idea he had in mind when it was suggested.
2) Since we might need to adopt a family for purposes of shidduch readings, idea, plans suggestions etc... I'd entertain a motion to nominate the Rosenbaum's (Aaron & Yehudis) as our founding family mainly because they did put together an actual singles event, in the very recent past. They have also told me that even if we only had seven guys (oddly enough) that was my projected estimate, they would put on a shidduchim workshop.
What this blog is not:
1) Its not open to search engines.
2) I have not seen any Ads here yet.
3) You have to be invited to post or even read this blog.
The blog is not here to compete with what other shidduchim groups are doing. At the meeting there was a suggetion that we can also become proactive and help ourselves.
More of what we can do:
Suggest new members:
All we need is some agreement amongst ourselves that so and so should become a member, get his e-mal address, send him an invite, he sets up a free google email account and he's in. Simple!
What this Blog Can Be:
An opportunity for us to talk amongst ourselves:
Public Responses encouraged:
Private responses can also be sent to stevesanders38@yahoo.com
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Initial Post
Date: Fri, 18 Jul 2008 00:51:05 -0400
From: "Boris Gelfand"
Boris Gelfand wrote:
Dear Gentlemen,
Thank you for joining us yesterday at the Perlmuters' home for a town hall meeting and expressing your ideas.
The ideas that were expressed can be summarized as follows:
A. Mixed events: mixed large and/or small shabbos tables,shabbatons, mixed events with facilitators.
A1. Non-mixed shabbos tables: where families in a structured way meet guys and girls and think of good matches
B. Dating workshops: communication, presentation, expectations, profile/resume.
C. Adopt a Single: local families adopt singles and provide them with companionship and guidance throughout the shidduch process and serve as their advocates no matter what.
D. YLS and Passaic shadchanim need better PR: ad in the Yeshiva Ketana guide, etc.
E. Meet the shadchan day was overall approved.
If I missed anything or you have something to add, please let me know.
I have a list and contact information of the attendees. If you do not want your information shared with other singles, please let me know, since the attendees wanted to be in touch with other singles, and I would like to distribute the list.
If you would like that others daven for you, please email your Hebrew name and your mother's Hebrew name.
Finally, my wife and I know a number of single girls. If you would like us or others help you with shidduch suggestions, please email me your profile and, if you have, your photo.
Follow up steps will be discussed separately.
Again, thank you very much for showing up last night and contributing at the open forum. May this, IY"H, lead to the events you find helpful and, ultimately, enable you find your bashert.
Good Shabbos,
Bentzion
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Posting from Aharon Moshe Sanders:
The was the intial e-mail as follow up to our shidduchim meeting. This private Blog is being proposed as an electronic posting forum by which we can stay in touch. Everyone who's email was sent to me by Boris has been invited to become an author on this blog. This Blog has been set to be only visible to authurs of this blog. With your permission I would like to be able to suggest actual shidduchs here so that follow ups can be made in their proper time.
Proper conduct as far as keeping people's private information private should be adhered to. I do not expect any blanket approvals and do require feedback to proceed. Also I would like to propose that interested married couples be invited to participate, especially since we require their help in reading the Shidduchs. Things can actually be proposed and implemented right here. Please help to keep this dialogue going.
From: "Boris Gelfand"
Boris Gelfand
Dear Gentlemen,
Thank you for joining us yesterday at the Perlmuters' home for a town hall meeting and expressing your ideas.
The ideas that were expressed can be summarized as follows:
A. Mixed events: mixed large and/or small shabbos tables,shabbatons, mixed events with facilitators.
A1. Non-mixed shabbos tables: where families in a structured way meet guys and girls and think of good matches
B. Dating workshops: communication, presentation, expectations, profile/resume.
C. Adopt a Single: local families adopt singles and provide them with companionship and guidance throughout the shidduch process and serve as their advocates no matter what.
D. YLS and Passaic shadchanim need better PR: ad in the Yeshiva Ketana guide, etc.
E. Meet the shadchan day was overall approved.
If I missed anything or you have something to add, please let me know.
I have a list and contact information of the attendees. If you do not want your information shared with other singles, please let me know, since the attendees wanted to be in touch with other singles, and I would like to distribute the list.
If you would like that others daven for you, please email your Hebrew name and your mother's Hebrew name.
Finally, my wife and I know a number of single girls. If you would like us or others help you with shidduch suggestions, please email me your profile and, if you have, your photo.
Follow up steps will be discussed separately.
Again, thank you very much for showing up last night and contributing at the open forum. May this, IY"H, lead to the events you find helpful and, ultimately, enable you find your bashert.
Good Shabbos,
Bentzion
*************************************************************************************
Posting from Aharon Moshe Sanders:
The was the intial e-mail as follow up to our shidduchim meeting. This private Blog is being proposed as an electronic posting forum by which we can stay in touch. Everyone who's email was sent to me by Boris has been invited to become an author on this blog. This Blog has been set to be only visible to authurs of this blog. With your permission I would like to be able to suggest actual shidduchs here so that follow ups can be made in their proper time.
Proper conduct as far as keeping people's private information private should be adhered to. I do not expect any blanket approvals and do require feedback to proceed. Also I would like to propose that interested married couples be invited to participate, especially since we require their help in reading the Shidduchs. Things can actually be proposed and implemented right here. Please help to keep this dialogue going.
Passaic Dating
Passaic Dating
Writers often get their inspiration from everyday activities. Partly what makes a writer, a writer is that as they experience their day they imagine how they could some up their thoughts in a nicely worded phrase, paragraph, article or story.
Today at the market. while I was checking over a dozen eggs, making sure none were cracked someone came up to me and told me that there was another bulldozer today in Israel which killed 75 people. I said the proper bracha (baruch dayan emet) and tried to focus on what else he was saying as he was moving away from me in the market.
Then a women had asked me what he had said, I told her about a bulldozer in Israel. She told me that happened a while ago. I told her he said it was another bulldozer. she told me she had not heard about etc. I went back to shopping. Then when I saw her again I had asked for her name. I told her I am relatively new to the area a BT etc. I then told her my status, meaning that I am looking to get married. She told me how there were plenty of single women in the area etc. I asked about her having guests for shabbos, and we exchanged information.
Even small things happen for reasons.
As a person with a goal it is important to reach out to available networks. I had read elsewhere on a blog, that one should try to network with married couples so that they would consider you for shidduchim.The results of a recent meeting: